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A topic goal signifies different ideas that emerge about what to do, what decisions to make, how to locate resources, where to go, and many more. Topic goals can be listed since they are tangible. They also have pros and cons, can be supported or be urged. The major struggles of topic goals are that either individual desire different things or they want similar things. Examples of topics goals in a family setting include reading a book for one month, no television for 30 days, make the bed every morning, and start a capsule wardrobe and only wear those items. Topic goals are the easiest goals to identify in a conflict and the easiest to communicate with others.
Relational goals entail how we want others to treat us and how we see our relationships with others. It denotes how each party desires to be treated by the other and the amount of interdependence they need. Parts of it comprise the extent of impact each will have over the other, and these goals will arise in any conflict that is going on. Such a type of goal is difficult to pinpoint since they are not always obvious. Examples of relational goals in the workplace setting include creating a new stream of income in a way that honors the desired relationship with money, buying for an individual a small item just because he will enjoy and appreciate it, and performing an act of kindness for someone else.
An identity goal signifies one that deals with who a person is deep down. It might look like this, “I’m the type of a person who never misses a chance to talk about my birthday and invite friends to join me.” An identity goal is a goal-based upon which a person believes about himself or herself. It is all about how you want people to see you. It includes particular desires to maintain one’s self-identity. When in a conflict, a person desires to be seen in a certain way. Most of the time, the identity goals can take center stage since we continuously wonder how someone else perceives us compared to how we view ourselves. An example in the workplace setting includes a combination of occupational and organizational identities that shape the role an individual adopts and the corresponding ways they behave when performing work.
A process goal signifies what a person will actually have to do in order to attain a larger goal. For instance, rather than setting a goal to achieve a boxing title, one might set a goal to keep the hands up during an entire boxing match. Process goals entail deciding what process of communication will work best during the conflict. In this type of goal, there is the decision between quick, well-defined processes versus lengthier ones. Examples of process goals in the family setting are when an individual decides to eat or drink no more than 1300 calories in a day with the goal to lose 12 pounds before winter.
